A significant part of the human experience is acquiring wisdom toward what is in our control and what is not. From there we can decide how we perceive those events and what meaning to attach to it. When life feels out of control we can step back and tell ourselves we always are in control of what we focus on and what meaning we give to what we focus on. When we do this we can sort out what is out of our control and what is in our control. We work toward acceptance of what we cannot control, and meet what we can control with resiliency and emotional integrity, i.e. grace. Our emotions are messages from within ourselves as we negotiate what we can and cannot control. What we do with those emotions dictate whether we have met our situation with acceptance and/or resiliency. For example, anger in itself is important as it can message pointing toward a lack of acceptance to a situation. Or it may be a signal that a boundary has been crossed which would be a call to action. Using the anger constructively to motivate oneself to address the situation/conflict is important as opposed to using anger to lash out at another person or our environment which is a destructive way to handle the anger.
Remember….ask yourself what can you control versus what you cannot. Where does life require your acceptance versus your resiliency. What does your emotion tell you and what can you do with emotions constructively versus destructively.
Information provided is intended for educational purposes and does not replace the advice of a qualified professional. If you are in an abusive relationship please seek professional help.